A good day to move on

“When you people feel hurt, angry, or envious, it is quite easy to judge other people often assigning dark motives to our actions in order to justify your own feelings of resentment.” But remember “Seeing that ye know the light by which ye may judge, see that you do not judge wrongfully; for, with that same judgment which you judge, you shall also be judged.” This has been turned over to God. We have risen above your pettiness and envyings and have moved on. One day you will have to resolve this and the responsibility of you forgiving us falls on your shoulders. The Savior heals all. The End

A woman once told a story about how she walked into a room where a couple of friends were discussing her, they didn’t know she was there. She decided she needed better friends and so she healed and continued to live her life.

She also told a story about she had a friend who talked bad about her, she healed from that incident and continued to live life.

She told how her family chose to shift her out of their life because she stood up for herself, her own children, her Mother, her nieces, and nephews, including a nephew-in-law. She spoke against their bullying and name-calling and she wouldn't join in their manipulation tactics, so they shunned her. They turned on her and called her names, twisted the truth, and lied about her. And because she stopped crossing oceans for them (she had crossed many for them helping them when they lived in a dirt floor home, buying School clothes, groceries, giving their children summer jobs, letting them stay in her home and many more good things did she do for them), they would not even help her cross a single bridge, they betrayed her, gossiped about her, stole from her, and spewed more falsehoods. So she healed and continued to live her life.

Over the years she has lived her life grateful for her blessings, she is healthy and happy. They tried to destroy her but she won, she continues to love life and has a happy heart.

They could not break her nor could they destroy her. They continue to live in a delusional state talking bad about her...trying with their feeble attempts to hurt her, but they cannot touch her for she has healed and is living life to the fullest.

See, it is ok to process and heal from abusive, narcissistic people who betray. The key is to put healthy boundaries in place, take responsibility, put it in the Lord's hands, and enjoy this journey called life.

A Good Day to put to rest

It is sad the delusional state that y'all have to live in now.  Finding the definition to your unacceptable behavior has taken some time but the truth has always been there. Stonewalling. Over the years you all were the ones who refused to talk, to communicate, who falsely accused, who bullied and harassed, who made fun of others, who twisted the truth, who evaded accountability, and refused to forgive when the opportunity presented itself. 

Y’all let your narcissistic behavior run wild until there was no turning back. You claim that there was a lot done to you, but you never actually say what it is that was done to you. Instead, you have stonewalled, gaslighted, and deflected. In the end, all that happened is you lost, you lost family, relationships, faith, reputation, opportunity, and growth. And you all just crawled back into the shadows like cockroaches (as so aptly put by your daughter). We will always be healthier and happier living our lives to the fullest. We will always feel sorry for you all and the trauma you have to deal with. 

A good day to be light as a feather

It is sad the delusional state they have to live in. It is sad the lies they have to tell themselves every day in order to live with themselves. 

A Good day to laugh about it

 

A good day for time

 Do not mistake my kindness and my forgiveness as weakness. Having healthy boundaries and being able to move forward to live life vivaciously is not only possible, it has happened. Choosing to let go and not to be bitter over the choices my aunt, uncle, and cousins have made has been the healthiest and wisest course. Forgiveness does not excuse their behavior, that they choose to continue to make up false narratives, hold grudges and deny forgiveness is upon their shoulders. Time does not heal all wounds but it is a choice to let it fester or to let the wound sink into the subconscious. Someday they will have to explain their reasoning and their actions and that may be in the afterlife before the Judgement Bar of God. But for now, my family has chosen to not let those wounds fester and we have moved on, happier and healthier. 

A good day to miss you

She said that love always wins. I still miss her sassiness, her conversations, her perspectives. She is gone but not forgotten. I can’t believe this month marks 5 years since she left, but the memories I have with her are not gone and so she lives on. Miss you Jetta Rose. This time of year always brings a little bit of sorrow of a life gone. You are no longer held down. I imagine you Grandma Lenore and Grandpa Jack are having some good conversations. #sucideprevention #lovealwayswins #gonenotforgotten #jettarose

 

They are Blind and Cannot see.

 Over the years they have lashed out, they have scoffed, they have scorned, they have ridiculed, they have made fun of, they have lied, and they have lost. 

 They lost so many things, they lost friendships, they lost opportunities, they lost family, they lost parts of their humanity, they lost sight of what it means to live life.

 They are just shadows of what they could have been. They do not understand what forgiveness truly means. Through all of the ridicule, name-calling, lies, and scorn...My family and I were learning how to frankly forgive. They have never understood what the term forgiveness means. What they did was wrong and not ok. The false assumptions about nonexistent issues, the lies on court documents, the slander to people around the community, Not ok and Not pardoned.

 I believe in a God who knows all, who knows our heart's intentions, who knows our actions done in private as well as public, I believe in a God who will one day bring this to an end. But until that day, my family will continue to not be blinded by hate. We have chosen forgiveness and because of that, our lives shine brighter, we are happier, and we are living life to the fullest.

"The bottom line is the people who hurt [us] will always be responsible for the pain and hurt they caused, and it's never going to be OK. They can be forgiven, though, if [one] define(s) forgiveness thus: the process of letting go of the hurt, pain, hate, and anger that holds [one] captive around an offense and causes [one] further suffering. Forgiveness is not about pardoning the guilty; it is not about saying it's OK that they hurt you. Forgiveness is about choosing not to live in an energy of hate and angst toward this person anymore because it diminishes the quality of [one's] life." -Coach Kim