Instead of reconciling or moving on with life, bullies "fist bump" and continue living a lie. They are not interested in reconciliation, they are not even interested in civility. No, they are only interested in destroying and creating chaos. It is my firm belief that there is a God in Heaven and His Angels silently record in the Book of Life our intent of heart, our actions, and our thoughts. Forgiveness does not mean that a bully has won, forgiveness was never for them but for me. A bully may continue to live a lie, but in the end, I truly believe the truth will come out. A bully who does not change their ways will always mock and have a weak mind. While those who are willing to forgive tend to be secure in their own life and will continue to encourage and lift up others even when they have been wronged. Those fist-bumping bullies just need to get over themselves and move on with their lives. A Toxic Person is a jealous-judgmental person. Jealous people are incredibly toxic because they have so much internal self-hate that they can't be happy for anyone around them. (I don't believe my aunt, uncle or anyone alive in their family could be happy for my family and any successes we enjoy) Typically, their jealousy comes out as judgment, criticism or gossip. According to them, everyone else is awful, uncool or lacking in some way. So because they are this way, they will not be able to let things alone and will continue to nitpick at imagined offenses and exaggerated wrongs. They will hide for periods of time, and then come out to try and strike any person who is trying to heal from their toxicity. These toxic people have a way of slinging jabs and subtle comments at opportune times, trying to make their actions refutable to others who cannot corroborate account of events. They are very clever to hide their behavior in plain sight and have tried (and failed which has them the most pissed off, that we didn't buy into their manipulation) manipulate emotions because they thought they knew us intimately(which they do not, for how can people who have toxic mental illness running rampant in their family understand normal people? They can't). These bullies are hidden in the midst of good people and act as if they are the better sort. Narcissists tend to struggle with personal problems, such as troubled relationships. Interesting how my aunt and uncle in many cases have had "bad" neighbors, problems with people in their congregation at church, seems to always be the other people's fault for the confrontations. In the case of us, they now act as if they are the ones distancing themselves by saying things like stay away and yet they continue to stalk us, (they have an inflated sense of self-importance) they continue to try and smear us, instead of truly ignoring us, they create dramatic scenes. Ever since they began to hide what they were doing with Uncle Jim, they become unavailable or open and become untrustworthy. I ask, if they are asked about certain people, what is their response? Do they intend to destroy that person? Do they call them crazy and mock that person? Do they talk about forgiveness or reconciliation? Do they put those whom they are asked about down, or do they talk about wishing them well in their respective life? Are they quick to judge those people and proclaim to know for a fact about their temple status? Do they lay out sins for the world to see and get angry when those people send back stones into their glass house? See it is all about where their intent lay. Those who bully throw stones at glass houses and get angry when a stone is thrown back into their house. Unfortunately, that is how a war is started. And that is what has happened in this case. A war was started because bullies threw stones and got pissed when people said look at yourself. They belittle other people to make themselves feel better. It is funny how bullies will try to hide the truth and construe it so it fits their needs. "The scriptures testify that the proud are easily offended and hold grudges. They withhold forgiveness to keep another in their debt and to justify their injured feelings. The proud do not receive counsel or correction easily. Defensiveness is used by them to justify and rationalize their frailties and failures." As of today, these people are unable to remove themselves from our family because reconciliation has never been on the table for them, they do not want to accept responsibility for their actions. They want us to be silenced so that the truth will not come out about their narcissistic toxic behaviors. They want the story to be one-sided. The thing is, the truth will come out in the end. they will see that relationships had been forged without their knowledge because of the fear of retribution on their side of things. That certain situations were grossly exaggerated by the very bullies who stole and hid money. This whole thing comes down to bullies being jealous, bullies taking what was not theirs in the first place, and bullies who want to destroy anyone who asks questions about what had happened. But the simple truth is God does know, and he will continue to know and in the end, the lies will stop, and the bullying will end. To the bullies I say, "where is your heart?" "what is it they hope to accomplish and will it end with having a clear conscience before the judgment bar of God?"
