A good day to look in the mirrior

The only people who are angry at me for speaking the truth are those who are living a lie. They keep us at a distance because they realize that a good memory is their worst enemy. They use whatever means necessary (including using and manipulating their own children) to achieve the farce they wish the world to see. They try to rewrite history either to make themselves sound grandiose or to make themselves the hapless victim of life's unfortunate circumstances. After they have trampled on and squelched out anyone they deem an "enemy," they continue on their merry way as if nothing wrong ever occurred. They do not look back at the road of destruction they left behind, no they only see that everyone else should pardon them, should excuse their behavior if they don't they scream that "those are the people who are in the wrong." They see those who have forgiven them (even though they would never apologize in the first place, nor do they offer forgiveness themselves) as people who should also forget what was done. They do not acknowledge that what happened (and is continuing to happen) is not okay. They continue to push the concept that simple contact equals conflict, but that is only because of how they react. They hate us because of the way other people love us. They make fun of people but they are more or less in the same boat, and sometimes worse off than those they make fun of...so maybe they should look in the mirror first. Their complete lack of responsibility for the situations they created leads one to conclude they may just be mentally unhinged. This blog is about my experiences and how I saw things happen, but that they feel as if they have to defend themselves, it really must be their conscience talking (it is nice to know they still have a conscience, maybe their hearts will one day soften). But this most likely won't happen due to this very reason. "When a Narcissist's family seeks to attack someone's credibility, to protect the narcissist, they are enablers. They have been repeatedly manipulated and used by narcissists. Enablers protect the bad things that the narcissist has done and they blame and accuse others if the Narcissist begins to act out. He can be the most abusive person in the world, but if he has enablers, such as his children, makes him feel more powerful (even though he is nothing but weak) because none of them tell him to stop. It never even entered my mind to think of my uncle as a narcissist, until one day when my cousin accused other people of being narcissistic and started spreading information about narcissists. And it makes perfect sense now, how they try to project their own character as ours and try to project our character as theirs (pretending to be us). They do anything they can to turn the situation away from themselves claiming that all "fingers" pointed their way are really the other persons...atypical. Interesting that they always point fingers at others but when someone finally says, "wait a minute" and points a finger back, they post about four fingers are pointing back at other people (maybe they should take their own advice). Maybe that advice was for my cousin, all those fingers pointing back at her because of all her finger-pointing. For years they have pointed fingers, bullied, and put down others and now that we are standing up for ourselves and telling them their actions and behaviors are inappropriate, they are doing anything they can to destroy us. It has taken years to recognize that they like to provoke negative emotions in others in order to get a reaction. They say inappropriate or insensitive things and will often do something cruel. They then shame those emotions by claiming the one who called them out is crazy, overreacting, or overdramatic, etc. They want others to feel as if their emotions are wrong. They can say and do whatever they want, but no one is allowed to say or do anything to stand up to it. They have a whole set of rules for others but follow none of their own rules. The ugliness showed by them, the shunning, the vile letters, the crude jokes, their cruel actions the hypocritical nature of their lives, towards my family and others that they target is a mirror; a reflection as to how they see themselves. They would like nothing more than for my family to fall apart, so they continue to try to harm us because it distracts them from the horrible way they feel about themselves inside. They have nothing good to say about us and want us to "move on" but in reality moving on for them means being silenced, not talking about the truth. However, that is part of moving on, telling the other side of the story, and being heard. They cannot stand that we are happy, that we make it through the tough times stronger than we were before. The problem is with them, not with us. They cannot silence us no matter how much they would like to. They love to shout out to the world that we are the ones with the problems, that "they are happy" and we are not, they try to condemn us when we express our feelings about what has happened and tell us we are wrong for having those feelings because they don't want to take responsibility for their actions. Because they are the ones with the problem, they are the ones who will never be able to go to family counseling, they are the ones who make the dramatic scenes, they are the ones who cannot stop looking at us, stalking us. Contact does not equal conflict on our end, maybe they should look in the mirror. They complain and complain, so many have done thousands of things for them and yet all they can do is complain about the 1 or 2 things that weren't done for them. They will try and change the narrative of everyone and try and change those around them instead of changing themselves because they are toxic people.