A Good Day to Let Go

This blog is about my side, my perspective of the events that have transpired. And if they get offended this is what Confucius has to say on the subject, "He who takes offense when none is intended is a fool. He who takes offense when offense is intended is a bigger fool.” This is where I can tell things like they are, bring truth to the lies and falsehoods that have been spread about by toxic family members who have mental illness running deep through their family. They have tried to bait and bash, they have made fun of others, they have mocked, they have tried to play the "mirror" game and have even tried to claim the good things my family has done as their own lives. They have ignored and scoffed at any reconciliation attempts, their mistake. This blog is an outlet for me, it really has nothing to do with them other than to shed light on the truth, though they will claim otherwise as is their nature. They have not talked with the rest of the family for years, they have created delusional worlds and have lied so many times to themselves that they now believe those lies to be truth. They try to through all kinds of crap against the wall hoping that anything will stick. They have twisted truth because they are sick and have major problems coursing through their family. They have made fun of, ridiculed and tried to dehumanize anyone who does not see the world as they do. They act like self-righteous pompous do-gooders on one hand and on the other, they try to terrorize those who really are trying to live good lives. Contention follows them like the plague but yet they claim to have no faults. They take no responsibility for their actions and want everyone else to suffer the consequences. But in their quest to destroy my family, THEY HAVE FAILED. We are stronger in our belief in a God who believes in bot Mercy and Justice and we are stronger in our love for each other as a family, understanding how important it is to have a gospel-centered home that emphasizes love and conflict resolution. They have also LOST because they have become the lost family when they chose to shun the rest of the family. They will continue to be the losers until they take responsibility and apologize for the things they have done. That is when this conflict will be over. Just because there is conflict in the world created by them, does not mean that there can't be peace in my family's home created by us and that is the case. It comes down to this: God knows the Truth of the Matter. God knows your heart and your intent; God knows what choices you made and continue to make; God knows the words you have written and the words you have said; God knows what you did and continue to do. And that is all there is to it. Watching as toxic family members hide behind their lies, portraying one face to the world while showing their verbally and emotionally abusive face to those they target, has been frustrating, to say the least. I know my toxic family members look at this blog, judge it, make snide remarks, probably make fun and other things that add to their toxic sickness and try to lie about what happened in the past, they cannot stand to not be in control of others, they have to "hit," squash and trample any ounce of good that they can as if to try and bring others down to their miserable lives. The trash they talk is a way for them to hide behind their lies. They claim to not talk to us because we are the "toxic" ones, but in reality, it is they who broke off contact with no explanation at the time, they wanted to control how others perceived their misdeeds and so they started spewing trash out of their mouths. The problem with that is they are not in control, they cannot "squelch" out light or take away someone's happiness and memories, they do not have that kind of power. They try, they try to build themselves up but that is the thing, they are like the Pharisees of old, on the outside they pride themselves on their strict observance of the law, and on the care with which they avoided contact with things that would build mercy. They point fingers. They cast verbal and emotional stones at members of their family and any with whom they believe to have "sinned." They gossip behind backs while ignoring their own shortcomings This life is short, and the choices we make affect much more than just while we are here, we are setting up our life for eternity. The things they crafted and the plans they made many years ago, laid seeds of doubt in relationships all the while "acting" as if they supported their family giving "false" advice. The truth did come out later, as it always does. I will never forget years later my StepDad recounted how he had been called by a male cousin in law and was given sensitive information. My Mum had gone to her family in sacred trust and these people because of their jealousy (we didn't know it at the time) did everything they could do help in destroying a relationship. Little did my family know those days in 2007-2008 were the beginning of the end when trust was shattered when lies started floating around when "crude" jokes turned nasty...when they betrayed their family and started out to deceive the world into believing they had done nothing wrong. This blog is about getting out what happened in the past and letting it go.