A good day for time

As time continues on, they start to disappear and fade out. The truth is ever apparent, their choices have solidified from wet cement into a cracked concrete. They chose to attack, bulldoze and fling every stone at their disposal so as to keep others from looking at them. To keep others from seeing them as they truly are. A sister who has since her childhood been jealous, who though at times was real and vulnerable at the heart of the three children's story, she chose to be spiteful, mean and angry which led to her being miserable. If she really looks back and truly sees, she will see that her family still helped her, they still loved her, they still prayed for her and rejoiced in her successes and sorrowed with her in her sorrows. A brother-in-law who is just as miserable as she. Who got into so much trouble in his youth, it was either jail or military and he couldn't even hack the military; begging his new family to get him out. Who over the years has begrudged others their successes and malevolent in the way he laughed at their failures. Though he was these things, his wife's family took him in, they helped him when he couldn't support his wife and was so poor they lived in a house with dirt floors, they helped him, they helped him get out of the military, they helped him with Christmas' and many other things have they helped with over the years. Despite all the kindness shown to them over the years, they decided to turn their backs on those who helped them. And because they have been dishonest with others and themselves for so long, pushing everyone who could tell the truth away they now live in an “alternative” reality. One where they are the good guys, one where they rewrote history, taking on the other characters from their childhood. They tell these stories to their children and grandchildren, painting everyone else but them as the bad guys and somehow in their convoluted world never did anything wrong, they now live in a delusional world. One where they never made fun of anyone who didn't deserve it (because they are judge and jury), they never told anyone else's failures (for according to them they have no failures), they never told lies (they only told "what had to be told") they never wished anyone harm. All the things they have done over the years are in direct opposition to the Gospel they claim to believe in, and I am not talking about the mistakes or even sins, I am talking about intentions. What have they intended all these years, what is the outcome they wished to see with all those who they have pushed away. If we go back and look and see, it becomes blatantly, glaringly apparent they wish harm on anyone who "stood/stands" in their way. The name-calling, the shaming, the way they never take any accountability for any of their actions will stand as a witness against them in the end. Some of their family may not believe in God anymore, but he is as real as the sun and they will have a very rude awakening when they meet His Son. Their other children who will do claim to live the Gospel and continue to hold such anger, hatred, and malice towards those whom they claim are their enemy are also in for a rude awakening. If we are his enemy then it is time they turn the other cheek, it is time to Love their enemy and if they believe we have cursed them then bless us, if they believe we have despitefully used them then pray for us if they believe we hate them then do good towards us if they believe we persecute them, love us. It is time for him to live what he claims.

A good day for no regrets

Maybe they are finally letting go of their toxicity. Maybe today they are taking a step towards doing good. It is about time the lost family let go of their jealousy, hatred, and anger and honor Grandma Lenore. A woman they tried to get declared incompetent so they could take over her finances in 2006, a woman whom they did not consult when taking over the finances of her brother-in-law and whisked him away from everything he had ever known, a woman who they made fun of when she had health problems, a woman who they later despised because she stood up to them, a woman who they stole stuff from over the years, a woman t despised for so many years, a woman who they never helped take care of in her old age, a woman they never visited on Sundays, a woman they lied to when her granddaughter passed away, a woman who they ran away from when she was in a wheelchair calling out her daughters name in the courthouse, a woman who they had not spoken to in years. Whether Grandma and Grandpa are feeling grateful on the other side remains to be seen. Because the lost family did not know that Grandma Lenore did not want a headstone for 2-3 years because she did not want them to know exactly where she was buried. Why did she request this to her Bishop at the time, her family who knew her, took care of her and loved her? Because of the aforementioned things. Simply put, they were not a part of her life. The headstone that was placed goes against her final wishes, but the lost family would not know that because they have never been able to bring themselves around to ask the rest of the family. But that is A-typical of the narcissistic people they are(they continue to make fun of others while ignoring their own flaws. I am shocked that he actually confessed to cyberstalking). Those of us who attended the Graveside service that Grandma wanted and asked for, got together and decided to let them appease their guilty consciences. They had been invited those two years ago to the graveside service, but they couldn't even show up for that. Again in A-typical behavior, they tried to belittle what had been done because they couldn't stand that love won out the day. It is a lot easier to go against what she wanted two years after she died than it was talking to her years before and knowing what she wanted. Two years is a long time to wait... and because they were not a part of her life they know nothing. Instead of Memorializing her death, I got to be a part of her life that the lost family will never know. For she lives on in our memories and the stories we got to experience together. They can’t even respect what Grandma Lenore wanted, but how could they know, they were never around... Doing the right thing would have been talking to her before she died. A real Samaritan helps someone before they are dead... But whatever they have to do to sleep at night.

A good day to be real

The most interesting part of everything that has happened over the years family is the way the toxic people have tried to bulldoze through life, never stopping to clean up their mess. They have thrown every stone in their arsenal accusing others, blaming everyone, never taking any responsibility for their own actions, never stopping to think that the way they have treated others is the reason others have stepped away from them. They have continually used people for their own monetary gain all the while touting about the "good" actions they want the world to see. They have made fun of every family member (no one has been exempt from their cruelty) nicknames for us all. They have always been the first to be critical and judgemental towards someone who was trying their best in a challenging situation. Instead of helping out, they pushed and shoved, ran away and hid until all the work was done...and they could look like the "good guy" without any of the sacrifices that go with being a good person. They tout "pure love" but yet they do not practice what they preach. The things they have said all these years are fake and have rung untrue. If they really lived what they believed, they would have talked, they would have worked through reconciliation, they would have taken ownership of their actions, and they would own up to the lies they have told over the years. They would actually think of others before doing something instead of worrying about how it will make them look. They claim to be Good Sameritaians but in actuality are pharasees. Time and Time again, they have shown that they do not know how to, they believe the lies they have been telling for so many years that it has become a sickness. Their talk is cheap... If they really have the pure love of Christ that they so claim then they would not have done the things they did. They do not understand that Love and following the Savior is not a competition, it is not about showing off...it is about making things right. Maybe they will start now... for a Brother and Sister are still alive. Even though her Mother is no longer here, there is still time to practice the pure love of Christ.