A good day for good intentions

Ah, it all becomes clear now, he once again shows how petty and weak he truly is. he is stuck in a neverending cycle of "knowing others intentions" and because he "knows" other's intentions, he continues to play his mentally ill game. The mythomania has always found it easier to tell lies than the truth. he really does have a mind disease that is deteriorating his ability to differentiate good from bad, truth from fiction, reality from the fanatical state he lives in. So now that I understand what the game was, I can again set the story straight, walk away, and move on. On June 25 2017, I at the time was reading the bible. I came across a verse that spoke to me and I shared it on Facebook. This was the post "As I was reading in the scriptures today I came across this scripture. Samuel 16:7 "...For the Lord seething not as a man seeth: for a man looketh on the outward appearance but the Lord looketh on the heart." God knows what we are going through. He knows the whole story and sees our intent whether it be good or it be bad." A little while later a toxic family member started spreading lies about this post as if he "knew" exactly what I meant by it and started a little "targeting" game. In the mind of the mythomaniac, he 'knows' that this post was about him and his family; when in reality it was not. So what does the mythomaniac do, he lies and he finds my travel blog and he stalks it and he retaliates against what he believes to be "against" him and his family. The funny thing is he just showed his cards, how he really is targeting me and my family. He keeps finding my blog, reading it and devising ways to try and twist it into whatever sick game he can. By his Facebook posts, it has become abundantly clear that they weren’t meant for just anyone, they were targeted and coincide with posts that I had posted, (whereas the post I made did not coincide with any post he made at that time) followed by his fish baited pictures. It all comes down to intentions, what are his intentions... he won that battle but lost the war. My family never instigated anything that we have been falsely accused of, we are not perfect but we are not the monsters my uncle has tried to portray us as he tried to cover up his family's intentional evil actions. This blog has served its purpose, I have not directly spoken to that family in years, but have had to defend my family against their lies. And they have done nothing to rectify the situation. My family has reached out, we have waved the white flag on more than one occasion, we have were not the instigators of this whole mess. My Uncle Aunt and family from the beginning have made fun of others, belittled others, been condescending, rude, trampled on any "peace flag" flown, ignored and gotten angry at any type of reconciliation, they have taken anything that was told in sacred trust and told it to the world with a smirk on their face. Who knows what secrets they are hiding that started this whole "war." They have never been on the defense they have always been the perpetrators and instigators only pretending to be the victim of some fake, false and totally makeup story they created. Their hatred for my family will never be understood, what it was we did all those years ago if you ask them there is no definitive answer, only vague puffed up speech and they will only talk badly about my family because it justifies their pitiful delusions. Their intentions are perfectly clear by their actions which coincide with their intentions, they do not want to reconcile, they only want to continue to live in their delusional world of trying to make my family look the perpetrators when we are not. I dare them to stop and to do family counseling, I highly doubt they will be able to. Karma is their reward, they have to live with their actions as much as I have to live with mine. I am happy in this life, I can look at my life at this moment and know that if I were ever to die, I die with a clear conscious and if I live a long full life, I live it with no regrets. I will say it again "God knows the whole story and sees our intent whether it be good or it be bad." Some of his family may not believe in God but He is real and we all will have to give an accounting of our lives to Him one day, I know what my and my family's intentions and actions have been and it is so far from what her or that family "knew" them to be. They were just mad that their deceit was not uncovered. I have nothing more to say to them.

A good day to be the one that got away

Not nice to post a pic of the dil's feet.. One shouldn't talk about their children that way, but considering how one who always makes fun of others fell right back into that trap. Even if it is true, it not nice (But we have known for years that my uncle likes to go back to his vomit and can't help but make fun of others, even his own children...maybe that is why they have anxiety and keep killing themselves? It certainly appears that way). And yes the admission of hating us is accurate because that is what they do..they hate and in the end, it will cost them. Why they are telling the world it started with his convicted felon child molesting father is beyond me... but to each their own. It's too bad their mentally ill family has to use seat extenders, personally, I have never used one on any of my hundreds of first-class flights. What is a hot pocket? I have heard that only people on food stamps buy them... My family wouldn't know as we have never been that poor. The truth has always been we are not the bullies nor are we the instigators. So can’t be baited... Again they are the ones who have been baited Every time they look at my blog because they can't stay away, they are getting their feet dirty. Every lie and every malicious remark made. He chokes on his vomit. Our very existence annoys them to no end, for they cannot leave us alone (Even though they claim otherwise). Our very lives are a victory because they have to hide their secrets and cannot let go. This blog is out for all the world to see. We did not instigate this, they did years ago to cover up what they did to Uncle Jim, Grandma Lenore and who knows who else; and now are trying to erase it by throwing "we are the victims not the perpetrators to everyone. People can see through it. We know they are not better than us and we have never claimed to be better than them (that must have been their mental illness kicking in and making assumptions), we know that spirituality is an ongoing process and when applied correctly is not a competition (they love to make it into one, again must be that mental illness telling them otherwise). Interesting how their family has always thrown the stones to cover the things they have done especially by making fun of others. Just curious, does this mean he is the adulterer as his family has literally screamed about all the adulterers in their lives, and does this also mean they are the thieves as he huffed and puffed that everyone else was the ones stealing... Y'all have falsely judged the whole family, including each other, for years, maybe that is why some have left this life, they couldn't take the false accusations anymore. We have lived our lives seeing people as honest (with a few exceptions and yes MOST people are moral and decent). But they would want the world to see us as the instigators when in reality it has been their family, we will not take the blame for his actions... We live our lives and as they watch, they have always wanted what we have (not realizing that if they had only been kinder they could have had it) but will never obtain it in this life, unless they reconcile with us and apologize. Until then we will always be the ones that got away...Happiest. They will continue to be the ones who lose because of malintent and lies. They have no power to affect our happiness and no power over our lives. No matter how many lies are told, no matter how much they lash out like a child in a tantrum trying to get our attention, they will never get what they want (Which is for us to disappear and look like the bad guy). We will continue to be the happier ones. Everyone knows the truth that a whale tale is just a lie...we pity them and the family's mental illness that plagues them. Everyone knows they are abusive and enjoy this "framing" game. he has tried to provoke us for a reaction, then claim it as evidence of others' mental stability (being blind to his family's that he has admitted to), evil-mindedness, or something else that implies is everyone else's fault but his own. He has tried (and failed) to divert all attention away from his family's behavior and seek support from his children who are his enablers leading them into his vomit infected muck and mire. his behavior is a reflection upon him and no one else. We all know he is the real stalker, lurking in the dark shadows, addicted to my family unable to turn away... jealous of our successes and happiness. We have always left the negativity in the darkness where it belongs because we have always been and will always be the light that shines.

A good day to Bait a Fish.

That was fast. "Just a note for you. As of today we will never look at your posts, you or your families FB... If you see any fb stuff that you think is about you, it won't be. Just stupid stuff I like. buh Bye" Dave the Dad. It was only a matter of time before his mentally ill ways came back into the limelight and he came crawling out of his dark hole to eat his own vomit again. I know he wants us to hate them, to join him in the muck and mire, but see because we are happy and joyful, there is no reason to hate, there is no reason to fight there is only cause to correct their falshoods, we pity them, to feel sorry for them that they have to make us out to be the bad guys to cover up their actions. he cannot get over himself, that they cannot stop making fun of others, that he cannot stop his hatred and jealousy. That he can't help but get caught with his own bait... We pray for them.

A good day to be fabulous

A good day to recap

The saddest part about this whole thing is that they want the world to think they did nothing wrong. That their actions were justifiable. That time would cover their misdeeds and people would no longer think about the heinous acts they committed. That they can sit in the same Church that we do and claim to believe the same morals and principles I do. They will throw in our face things that they believe are "misdeeds" of my family because that is the only recourse they have to cover their cruel acts. The biggest difference between misdeeds and heinous acts is who it affects and what was the intent of those acts. It is my belief that no one in this life is perfect and no one will get through life without making mistakes or sinning but we can get through life without committing a heinous act. If what we do harms others and we don't wholeheartedly try and rectify that situation, that is classified as a heinous deed, one that will come to haunt a person in their sleep as they get older, one that will make them a harder person and ingrained in the "hatred" they created. They hide behind crass jokes and making fun of those who are living life to the fullest because of the jealousy they harbor in their hearts. Each has grown older but they cannot erase their actions from their past and one day will have to account for choices they made and the things they said. They are unable to acknowledge the happiness of my family because it is always a competition with them. They attack at every angle especially when a person stands up for themself even to the point that they make contradictions that make no sense. I will say this again and again until they apologize and make amends (which they already have lost the opportunity to do so with Grandma Lenore), their lives will never be full, they will carry heavy chains and burdens of heinous deeds committed, even when they are surrounded by family, they will not be able to let go, they will continue to make fun of those that they are jealous of, they will lie and shout like guy and boo... they will continue with their crassness and rude behavior because they are addicted to the evilness that fills their hearts. Because they are unable to apologize and move on, they will keep their wounds open and pour salt on themselves every time they talk about my family, every time they lie about my family's intentions, every time they let their delusions come into play and they will be the losers each time. They will always be plotting to cover their sins and try to show the world a mask of a life fulfilled but because we know the truth, we know their mask of baiting and bashing is already starting to crumble. "The Wrong shall fail, the Right prevail, With peace on earth, good-will to men."

A good day for him to leave

In his delusional mentally ill mind, he might believe himself to be head of house, but he is nothing but a miserable old flop. It is funny how he believes his "peeping" ways and unwanted clamorings (or what he believes to be advice) somehow influenced what I or my family did or now do. Let me pop that bubble with a sharp needle, it was always thrown out with the trash where it belonged. As for normal, nothing he or his family has done is normal. Before he tries to talk about dirty feet on others he should clean up his own house. What a pitiful life his has turned out to be.

A good day for a good day

And the world turned right again the way it was supposed to be. Life has a way of doing that. We will always find happiness and joy in this adventure called life, even when evil spiders crawl out of their web and try to ensnare us, they will continue to fail. They have crawled back into their hole. They thought they got the last dig when they threw away the tokens of love that have been on Grandpa Jacks Grave since 1999, they thought they got the last dig when they threw away the four flags representing each Mullin's who was in a war, they thought they got the last dig when they threw away the marker (a marker which they lied to the world was not there) that was Grandma's... But see that is the thing about good vs. evil... evil never wins and loses in the end and the truth of the matter comes out. They had their fake get together with a cold slab of stone devoid of true love. They made a monument to try and tell the world "look at us we are good people" and to "win" or outshine those who have lived life quietly doing good along the way out of the spotlight with nothing to prove because this is not a competition. If they truly had good intentions and did what the whole family wanted they would have left the things that over the years different family members had left there, representing love and honoring Grandpa Jack and Grandma Lenore. But we all know the true nature of the whale tales and their lying coackroaching ways. They made their choices and I and my family made ours. It is so unfortunate that they lost so much in trying to win "treasures of this world." My family has gone through trials but we have chosen to be believers in Jesus Christ and actually live to the best of our ability the teachings He taught. We have chosen to keep a positive outlook on life even in the face of adversity because life is an adventure with ups and downs, but men and women are that they might have joy and we have found many hobbies, service opportunities and many other things that bring us true joy. We choose to be the good change we wish to see in the world. My family has overcome a lot of obstacles and we will continue to climb. We feel sorrow for the family who turned their backs and continues to spew lies. They continue to play victims instead of taking responsibility for the actions. They couldn't stand to see those things, because it is a reminder that they cannot rid themselves of those whom they have tried to destroy, so they callously throw them away. That they missed their opportunities to not be asshats when the ones who are now gone were alive. Instead, throughout their lives, they have been the change they wanted to see in the world because they knew that no one else would do it for them...and in the end, their house of cards is continuing to crumble down. Their hypocrite ways lead to so many types of destruction among their families. They forgot about love, they forgot about forgiveness, they forgot about kindness, they forgot what it means to be a good human being (If they knew those things at all). They will always be out trying to "prove" that they "have it," but they have missed the big picture and because of their choices (as they continue to make fun, judge and point fingers at others) because of the anger, jealousy, hatred they let creep into their hearts, they will never have "it". Their lies have fallen flat. We forgave them long ago, but forgiveness does not mean we trust them. They lost our trust and respect when they went out of their way to do all the things outlined in this blog. Oh what a tangled web they wove when they first tried to deceive, they lost because they lost their family. We have always been happier because our actions have led us to joy. It is a good day for a good day.

A good day for time

As time continues on, they start to disappear and fade out. The truth is ever apparent, their choices have solidified from wet cement into a cracked concrete. They chose to attack, bulldoze and fling every stone at their disposal so as to keep others from looking at them. To keep others from seeing them as they truly are. A sister who has since her childhood been jealous, who though at times was real and vulnerable at the heart of the three children's story, she chose to be spiteful, mean and angry which led to her being miserable. If she really looks back and truly sees, she will see that her family still helped her, they still loved her, they still prayed for her and rejoiced in her successes and sorrowed with her in her sorrows. A brother-in-law who is just as miserable as she. Who got into so much trouble in his youth, it was either jail or military and he couldn't even hack the military; begging his new family to get him out. Who over the years has begrudged others their successes and malevolent in the way he laughed at their failures. Though he was these things, his wife's family took him in, they helped him when he couldn't support his wife and was so poor they lived in a house with dirt floors, they helped him, they helped him get out of the military, they helped him with Christmas' and many other things have they helped with over the years. Despite all the kindness shown to them over the years, they decided to turn their backs on those who helped them. And because they have been dishonest with others and themselves for so long, pushing everyone who could tell the truth away they now live in an “alternative” reality. One where they are the good guys, one where they rewrote history, taking on the other characters from their childhood. They tell these stories to their children and grandchildren, painting everyone else but them as the bad guys and somehow in their convoluted world never did anything wrong, they now live in a delusional world. One where they never made fun of anyone who didn't deserve it (because they are judge and jury), they never told anyone else's failures (for according to them they have no failures), they never told lies (they only told "what had to be told") they never wished anyone harm. All the things they have done over the years are in direct opposition to the Gospel they claim to believe in, and I am not talking about the mistakes or even sins, I am talking about intentions. What have they intended all these years, what is the outcome they wished to see with all those who they have pushed away. If we go back and look and see, it becomes blatantly, glaringly apparent they wish harm on anyone who "stood/stands" in their way. The name-calling, the shaming, the way they never take any accountability for any of their actions will stand as a witness against them in the end. Some of their family may not believe in God anymore, but he is as real as the sun and they will have a very rude awakening when they meet His Son. Their other children who will do claim to live the Gospel and continue to hold such anger, hatred, and malice towards those whom they claim are their enemy are also in for a rude awakening. If we are his enemy then it is time they turn the other cheek, it is time to Love their enemy and if they believe we have cursed them then bless us, if they believe we have despitefully used them then pray for us if they believe we hate them then do good towards us if they believe we persecute them, love us. It is time for him to live what he claims.

A good day for no regrets

Maybe they are finally letting go of their toxicity. Maybe today they are taking a step towards doing good. It is about time the lost family let go of their jealousy, hatred, and anger and honor Grandma Lenore. A woman they tried to get declared incompetent so they could take over her finances in 2006, a woman whom they did not consult when taking over the finances of her brother-in-law and whisked him away from everything he had ever known, a woman who they made fun of when she had health problems, a woman who they later despised because she stood up to them, a woman who they stole stuff from over the years, a woman t despised for so many years, a woman who they never helped take care of in her old age, a woman they never visited on Sundays, a woman they lied to when her granddaughter passed away, a woman who they ran away from when she was in a wheelchair calling out her daughters name in the courthouse, a woman who they had not spoken to in years. Whether Grandma and Grandpa are feeling grateful on the other side remains to be seen. Because the lost family did not know that Grandma Lenore did not want a headstone for 2-3 years because she did not want them to know exactly where she was buried. Why did she request this to her Bishop at the time, her family who knew her, took care of her and loved her? Because of the aforementioned things. Simply put, they were not a part of her life. The headstone that was placed goes against her final wishes, but the lost family would not know that because they have never been able to bring themselves around to ask the rest of the family. But that is A-typical of the narcissistic people they are(they continue to make fun of others while ignoring their own flaws. I am shocked that he actually confessed to cyberstalking). Those of us who attended the Graveside service that Grandma wanted and asked for, got together and decided to let them appease their guilty consciences. They had been invited those two years ago to the graveside service, but they couldn't even show up for that. Again in A-typical behavior, they tried to belittle what had been done because they couldn't stand that love won out the day. It is a lot easier to go against what she wanted two years after she died than it was talking to her years before and knowing what she wanted. Two years is a long time to wait... and because they were not a part of her life they know nothing. Instead of Memorializing her death, I got to be a part of her life that the lost family will never know. For she lives on in our memories and the stories we got to experience together. They can’t even respect what Grandma Lenore wanted, but how could they know, they were never around... Doing the right thing would have been talking to her before she died. A real Samaritan helps someone before they are dead... But whatever they have to do to sleep at night.

A good day to be real

The most interesting part of everything that has happened over the years family is the way the toxic people have tried to bulldoze through life, never stopping to clean up their mess. They have thrown every stone in their arsenal accusing others, blaming everyone, never taking any responsibility for their own actions, never stopping to think that the way they have treated others is the reason others have stepped away from them. They have continually used people for their own monetary gain all the while touting about the "good" actions they want the world to see. They have made fun of every family member (no one has been exempt from their cruelty) nicknames for us all. They have always been the first to be critical and judgemental towards someone who was trying their best in a challenging situation. Instead of helping out, they pushed and shoved, ran away and hid until all the work was done...and they could look like the "good guy" without any of the sacrifices that go with being a good person. They tout "pure love" but yet they do not practice what they preach. The things they have said all these years are fake and have rung untrue. If they really lived what they believed, they would have talked, they would have worked through reconciliation, they would have taken ownership of their actions, and they would own up to the lies they have told over the years. They would actually think of others before doing something instead of worrying about how it will make them look. They claim to be Good Sameritaians but in actuality are pharasees. Time and Time again, they have shown that they do not know how to, they believe the lies they have been telling for so many years that it has become a sickness. Their talk is cheap... If they really have the pure love of Christ that they so claim then they would not have done the things they did. They do not understand that Love and following the Savior is not a competition, it is not about showing off...it is about making things right. Maybe they will start now... for a Brother and Sister are still alive. Even though her Mother is no longer here, there is still time to practice the pure love of Christ.

A good day for good riddance

The impasse. According to his little mind: If I refute the lies I have been “fish baited” if I don’t I have been “squashed” as a mosquito. The truth has always been we are not the bullies nor are we the instigators. So can’t be baited and can’t be squashed... My uncle is the one who has been baited and squashed. Every time he looks us up he has been baited, every lie and every malicious remark made, he is squashed a little bit more. He chokes himself with the noose he put around his neck. Our very existence annoys him to no end. Our very lives are a victory because he cannot let go. This blog is out for all the world to see and he is the one who will be baited time and time again... every time he comes to this blog he is on the hook and becomes like the drug addict who needs their hit, his disease is not being able to stop stalking and spying on my family... Probably because he wants what we have and will never obtain it in this life. When I had heard that my uncle had died, I wanted to know so I checked to confirm the truth... but low and behold it was a confirmation that he can not let it go, he and his family lost, he pretends to have won, but he lost. In the great day of Judgement, he will have to stand before our maker and account for what he has done. The only way he will ever win is to apologize, but as he reads this, we both know he could not ever do that, the mental illness that runs in his family would never allow him to make amends and that is why unless he and his family make amends, he will always and forever be the loser. That he has to keep stalking, how was it that his daughter put it, oh yes. Like a cockroach crawling out of its hole is what he will continue to do. This blog has always been a way for me to combat his filthy feet. He cannot stay away and like a dog to its vomit, he will come here, again and again, looking for a way to get into my family’s life. Always on the outskirts looking in. With no power. No matter how much his ego lies to him. He will never have any power to destroy my family. No power to affect our happiness and no power over our lives. No matter how many lies are told, no matter how much he lashes out like a child in a tantrum trying to get our attention, he will never get what he wants because like a cockroach he has no power. We will always be the happier ones and have the last laugh victoriously either with or without y'all. #Theonesthatgotaway

A good day to call out the real Stalker.

They had to search my blog out. Funny. (I had heard that one of them had died and was just checking to see. Mental illness runs in their family...) I got Proof they could not stop attacking us, that they would not be able to let it go. They really are narcissistic people. It was only a matter of time before they showed their true colors and started in on their snide, judgemental, and false comments again. It really is sad.

A good day to say what is on my mind

The truth always comes out and my family has done what we always have, we live. We have never hidden from the world, we have never crawled into any holes, we do not turn tail even when life is difficult. We have always found joy in the journey, we have always found that there are flowers even in the desert. We travel, we work, we have hobbies, we have friends, church callings, we buckle down and put our shoulder to the wheel, and we have each other. I know he nor any of his family will ever understand us because they all have chosen not to. The problem is that they have become so offended that for whatever reason he continues in trying to tear my family down. We do not tear down the faith that becky has, she was a role model for me and helped inspired me to want to go on a mission. Now her actions later on when she chose to say unkind and outright lies that was not so inspiring. We were proud of dan for stepping up and marrying bari after he got her pregnant, we went to his college graduation to show our support, his actions later on also were uncalled for when he didn't return grandma's photos and over the years the lies he and his wife have told. We have never questioned the things Bethany told us and are happy that she and her family are living life to the fullest, sad that for whatever reason she puts down the church she grew up in and the faith we believe in. guy the best thing that ever happened to him was marrying Sabrina, that he decided to lose his temper at Jetta's funeral was very out of line. We mourned and continue to mourn both Jetta's and Darren's deaths and will always have questions. Interesting that supposedly the dan incident was "coincidental" when every one of them knows where and who I work for. But in their minds, it was "On purpose" that I happened to walk into an open business where someone who isn't even related to them happens to work. It isn't just simple contact equally conflict, it is a mentality to scream when something doesn't go his way. I took my business elsewhere, we have moved on and moved forward with our lives.

A good day to talk about family

Better to have a smaller home full of Laughter, Happiness, and Family then to have a big empty house because the kids are "too old to live there." I guess their thinking is "Better to have them (2 families) in welfare housing and live off the government even though they have degrees." 2 got lucky in their marriages one because her husband got a wrongful death settlement from his mother's death and the others who ran away as soon as she could and doesn't believe in the afterlife, started in an apartment (I remember I went and saw them) and don't forget he lived in a house that had dirt floors, he accepted money for house payments because he couldn't make it on his own. Talk about judging others, which he claims he doesn't want to be done to him, yet he can't help but put others down and judge them. he claims that he wants us to leave him alone, but yet he continues to try and pick a fight, that we all know he will lose. he tries to make fun of (surprise, surprise) of things he has no idea about. Nice try but the lies are only in his delusional mind. The lies fade away (can't even get birthday's right, or maybe that was on purpose too because y'all can't help but lie) and truth always comes out, no matter how he tried to slander, bully, and flat out lie. he lives in a glass house as much as the rest of us. All his actions show is that he is a cowardly narcissistic bully with children who are his enablers. BTW the argument is null and void because the person isn't a believer. It is going to be a surprise to them (and maybe him too) when they all have to answer to a God they don't believe in....makes me wonder if the whole church thing a front for them too... I am Grateful my Mum keeps an open-door policy, that I can live with my family intermittently and get to spend time with them. Once again he is unable to comprehend the blessings that have come to our family because Over the years I have been able to live in the same home.

A good day to carry on

First of all...The Febreeze he was trying to spray, turned out to smell like resentment, unmanaged anger issues, bitterness, and jealousy...maybe they all need to go get some counseling. There is no restraining order and never was, a lie in writing. Second, there is not a stalking order against me. Third very passive-aggressive of him to try to invalidate my grief and healing process. If we have always had a low character, why didn't he say so a long time ago, instead he waited until just recently to say that we have low character (whatever that means)? Over the years his family accepted money, house payments, car payments, food, Christmas presents, clothing, and other things from us...if we are of such low character why did they take what we had to offer? We were good enough then, we were also good enough when we came and humbly asked him for priesthood blessings, we were good enough when they came and picked us up after a bad situation occurred with my Dad, we were good enough when we asked for their help (unbeknownst to us they were feeding lies to my stepdad at that time) if we were such “scum” why not tell us to our face? We were good enough until my Mum told him that he couldn't take over Grandma's finances and then we were definitely were no longer any good when we asked questions about Uncle Jim. When his family lied to my StepDad (It didn't matter in the end my StepDad and Mum are good friends to this day (He paid for her attorney's against their lies...FYI). That was when the rift between families happened and Jetta didn't want to be a part of it, so she reached out to us. The only hole that has ever been in existence is the one he created, there is no hole for myself or my family. If we really are the bad people they say we are, they would sick the people who ask to come after us to really do it. I will gladly share with them that post. But they don't because they know deep down that if they do come after us, they would find out the truth, that we are not the type of people they make us out to be. They would know us, as well as them, the only "side" in this feud has been created by him, our door has always been open for reconciliation and family counseling, it is they who calls us names, keep the door closed and say's that we are "horrid" people. Horrid behavior? Horrid for asking the same questions they have? Horrid because we made Scott dinner and tried to bring it over, doing recon beforehand because it seemed the best course? (BTW Becky was out of line for making FALSE ASSUMPTIONS and lying to a coworker) Horrid for reaching out and offering condolences? Horrid for trying to give an old woman, Jetta's Grandma/Sue's Mother, her wish to have a picture of Jetta's funeral? (Because they all lied and told her she could say goodbye at the hospital and when she was ready to go, was told Jetta has already been taken away). Horrid for sending flowers? Horrid for sharing gofundme accounts to help Scott, Ziva, and Wade? Horrid for giving money to said Godfundmeaccount? Horrid for telling the world that she had a relationship with Grandma and my family? Horrid because we questioned her choices in burglarizing another person's home because she felt she had nowhere (HER OWN WORDS) to turn? Horrid for stating what she told us in conversations that she just wanted out of St. George? Horrid for visiting her in the hospital to see how we could help and instead, having to say goodbye one last time? Horrid for reaching out to Prissy and giving her a hug? Horrid for letting the name-calling slide by when pm'd me on Facebook and lied? Horrid for posting a picture of her to memorialize her life? Horrid for making a plea deal because that was less contentious? Horrid for turning to God in grief? Horrid for delivering birthday cards because Grandma asked us to? Horrid for trying to contact Sue and get her to visit her dying Mother (talk about no empathy)? Horrid for loving an imperfect cousin? If these things make one a horrid person, then I guess I am a "horrid" person. I will continue to grieve over the lost life of my cousin and because they are blinded by anger, everything I post, in his mentally ill mind will be about him and it will be horrid things I say because according to what he judges is bad behavior and he throws "stones" by his name-calling. So the most "horrid" thing I can say is "No matter what hateful things they spew and names he calls, I hope they find peace and let it go. Grieve their daughter's death in the manner they wish and I will grieve her death in my way." Love always wins. BTW that post on the 25th has nothing to do with Jetta's death, them or their family, I just like it. Maybe they shouldn't think that everything I post is about them or their (unlike their targeted fish baiting posts) family...it isn't, stop Cyberstalking me, I dare him.

A good day to hold on

This next month has a lot of meaning to it for me. A lot has gone on over the years in the month of June. Sometimes great good things happened and sometimes terrible and sad things happened. But the truth, both warm and fuzzy and the bad and sad all really happened. It makes me sad to think about those who have wrapped themselves up in fakeness, ignoring truth. Suicide is one of the toughest things we face in this life when we are the ones left behind. My cousin Jetta took her life all too soon. She left family and friends with a lot of unanswered questions. The saddest part is that because of the timing the divide between Sisters was furthered. My family’s good intentions when we heard the news was twisted and warped into being something that it was not. I don’t have anything bad to say against them, but I know they have a plethera of bad twisted and warped lies mixed with truth to say against myself and my family. I have born adversity for most my life and will continue to bear the burden of peoples warped perseption. But that will never change my truth. I will help out anyone when I can, I will ALWAYS stand up against those who bully another even when I am the sole voice. I have my core beliefs and they may differ from others but I won’t tolerate hate, bias or rudeness. I have seen so many inspiring people over the years who have shaped me into being better than I was before. I seek after the good that does not make me ‘fake’ it makes me a person who aspires to be the change I wish to see in the world. I wish I could have changed those fateful decisions that lead up to my cousin’s death. That she would have known there were more options to her than she thought. I cherish the time I got to know Jetta. I miss the laughs I had not only with her but her family. It is sad they have chosen to ignore truth.

A good day to have courage

A little bit ago, I walked into a business, I wanted to find out more information. I didn't notice her my cousin-in-law, I was talking with someone else. Then I saw her huffing back. she shouted, "This is harassment." I still didn't recognize her. I asked who she was and looked at her because I did not know at the time who she was. Then I saw her name tag. Oh, I thought. Well To BE perfectly frank, she is an immature, unprofessional person. It is now perfectly clear that she is also a bully, a liar, and someone who wants to intimidate others into fear. I know she called the cops to try and intimidate me but there is nothing there and after speaking with the officer, I contacted my attorney. I did nothing wrong, I have every right to go into an open business. That she and her inlaw family have the notion to "squash" others just shows what type of people they are. she actually made the decision for me. I will never go to that business while she is there, I will also encourage every person I know not to go to southwest vision center in St. George Utah because of her unprofessionalism. Funny how Southwest vision stated that they have an excellent staff. They must have been talking about their old staff because if that was true, she would have turned away, not made a scene and we would have never of spoken, though she instigated the confrontation first, as her fil told me in his private messages on my travel blog simple contact= confrontation. But that is not the case for me or my family. they are the ones with the problem, she and her inlaws are the one with the problem. To make it perfectly clear, I DID NOT KNOW SHE WORKED THERE and going into Southwest vision, I DID NOTHING WRONG. I have every right to stand up for my well-being, my emotions and my sanity. I do not and will not be fearful to go into public businesses because I might bump into any one of their family. Funny how when I went into a business, the dil could not stay away..she just had to insert herself into my life... I had no knowledge of her until she brought herself to my attention funny how they can't follow their own counsel. They, toxic people will flat out lie about what they’ve confronted about. They, toxic people, make up new stories to try and disarm our interpretation of the truth and try to redirect the indictments we have accused them of towards us. They have tried to silence us but we will not be silenced and the truth will come out. All scenarios point back to them the toxic people trying to be the victim in the eyes of anyone around them. The difference between my family and theirs is intent, their family, by their actions, wishes ill will on mine because my family wanted to know the truth and their family can't stand that we know a lot of the truth. If their family does not want to bump into any of us (they should follow their daughters' example and move away) then give the prosecuting attorney (since y'all are so hell-bent on having him involved) a full list of the places all y'all work at. The only thing that is toxic is my uncle and his family and the lies they tell are like trash coming out of their mouths. But guess what... there aren't any orders against me, so I can tell the whole story, not some perverted, toxic version they tell the world. They lied so much on every document sent into the prosecuting attorney. And their lying totally just shows how low they have gone and will go, or they are mentally ill... telling her boss that her family was nice and took me off a protective order... Hate to break the news to them, her office manager and every member of their family but I was taken off because there was nothing to keep me on and they all knew that her fil would be a total embarrassment (which he is anyway) to try and keep me on. Their family is out to offend "no one in particular" but it shows their true character in that they are glad to have "reached" one person. Not this woman or her family, because we know they want to be us, they want to live our lives, they have to pretend to be us because they don't know how to be good people. No wonder Jetta wanted to get away with all the drama his dil causes... So the next time she sees me, just turn around and we won't have any problems, whether I am in their open business or not, I have every right to be there and have done nothing wrong by going there. (My family has already chosen happiness, we already have peace in our lives, we have always been the emotionally stable ones and will continue to be so) Maybe they should get it into their thick skulls... assuming there is anything but skull in there... I was never there for her.

A Good Day to talk about Forgiveness

Through the course of writing this blog, I have thought about and written about my extended family a lot (the purpose of this blog). This blog I have come to realize has helped me through the stages of grief, of losing what I once treasured. I went through denial, anger, depression, bargaining, and now finally I am in the acceptance stage and learning to move forward and forgive them. For me, forgiveness is not totally about them, it is also about me and my mental health. Introspection is very important and being honest with one's self. I am learning to move on and live my life away from them. In this blog, I have written down accounts of what happened and it started out as a way for me to tell my side of things and has evolved into a way for me to put the past behind. I do not hate my extended family, I am learning to forgive them for the things that have transpired. I have always been open to a civil dialogue; I have learned from the past- Trust will take time, and healing takes time. I also will not be bullied, and I know that the conflict does not come from me, until they choose to stop they will always have one-sided conflict and the problem will always lie with them until they learn to accept my family as we are and that we are not going away, we are full of vibrant life. I used to assume that if I forgive my offenders, they are let off the hook — scot-free — and get to go about their merry ways while I unfairly suffer from their actions. But now, I am learning to accept that unless something changes on their end, they will always be offended, they will always call the police when a random encounter happens, they will always try to rewrite history, and they will always try to destroy my family. With that acceptance comes a sense of peace and a determination that though those things are true, it is also true that I can live my life (even with the slight disturbance from the police), I can choose to forgive, move forward continue to be happy. For I am learning to live without them, the grieving process is starting to heal from all the loss and I am continuing to climb my mountains. I have been studying up on forgiveness and what it means to forgive. I came across this list and believe it states a lot of the thoughts I have had. Forgiveness is not letting the offender off the hook. We can and should still hold others accountable for their actions or lack of actions. Forgiveness is returning to God the right to take care of justice. By refusing to transfer the right to exact punishment or revenge, we are telling God we don't trust him to take care of matters. Forgiveness is not letting the offense recur again and again. We don't have to tolerate, nor should we keep ourselves open to, lack of respect or any form of abuse. Forgiveness does not mean we have to revert to being the victim. Forgiving is not saying, "What you did was okay, so go ahead and walk all over me." Nor is it playing the martyr, enjoying the performance of forgiving people because it perpetuates our victim role. Forgiveness is not the same as reconciling. We can forgive someone even if we never can get along with them again. Forgiveness is a process, not an event. It might take some time to work through our emotional problems before we can truly forgive. As soon as we can, we should decide to forgive, but it probably is not going to happen right after a tragic event. That's okay. We have to forgive every time. If we find ourselves constantly forgiving, though, we might need to take a look at the dance we are doing with the other person that sets us up to be continually hurt, attacked, or abused. Forgetting does not mean denying reality or ignoring repeated offenses. Some people are obnoxious, mean-spirited, apathetic, or unreliable. They never will change. We need to change the way we respond to them and quit expecting them to be different. Forgiveness is not based on others' actions but on our attitude. People will continue to hurt us through life. We either can look outward at them or stay stuck and angry, or we can begin to keep our minds on our loving relationship with God, knowing and trusting in what is good. If they don't repent, we still have to forgive. Even if they never ask, we need to forgive. We should memorize and repeat over and over: Forgiveness is about our attitude, not their action. We don't always have to tell them we have forgiven them. Self-righteously announcing our gracious forgiveness to someone who has not asked to be forgiven may be a manipulation to make them feel guilty. It also is a form of pride. Withholding forgiveness is a refusal to let go of perceived power. We can feel powerful when the offender is in need of forgiveness and only we can give it. We may fear going back to being powerless if we forgive. We might have to forgive more than the event. Post-event problems related to money, we might have the need to forgive again and to seek forgiveness ourselves. We might forgive too quickly to avoid pain or to manipulate the situation. Forgiveness releases pain and frees us from focusing on the other person. Too often when we're in the midst of the turmoil after a tragic event, we desperately look for a quick fix to make it all go away. Some want to "hurry up" and forgive so the pain will end, or so they can get along with the other person. We have to be careful not to simply cover our wounds and retard the healing process. We might be pressured into false forgiveness before we are ready. When we feel obligated or we forgive just so others will still like us, accept us, or not think badly of us, it's not true forgiveness — it's a performance to avoid rejection. Give yourself permission to do it right. Maybe all you can offer today is, "I want to forgive you, but right now I'm struggling emotionally. I promise I will work on it." Forgiveness does not mean forgetting. It's normal for memories to be triggered in the future. When thoughts of past hurt occur, it's what we do with them that counts. When we find ourselves focusing on a past offense, we can learn to say, "Thank you, God, for this reminder of how important forgiveness is." Forgiveness starts with a mental decision. The emotional part of forgiveness is finally being able to let go of the resentment. Emotional healing may or may not follow quickly after we forgive, but it will come.

A Good Day for Truth

“We are targeted by narcissists because we have everything that is beautiful and human. We can feel true joy and sadness. They want to live through us, and end up killing us. But we will rise, and we will be stronger and wiser...This is the life lesson.” – Dzana, Survivor from Stockholm. It is a terrible shame that there are so many narcissistic abusers out there waiting to destroy another's life. They try to be covert in insidious in their methods of controlling others, hiding their true self from the world instead, showing a charismatic person. Because of this, many times the narcissistic person is able to withstand being held accountable for their actions, in their sickness, they do not realize that they will be held accountable, I often wonder if they truly believe in an afterlife at all. These types of people have contempt for others because they want to show their power, strength, and false superiority over other people. I have se4en for myself how my aunt, uncle, and cousins, try to rewrite history, twist it in a way to only make them look the hero, the "good ones" the "smart ones" etc all the while putting everyone else down through their "fake" degrading pictures, their crude/crass jokes, their debasing nicknames for anyone who steps in their path, they did anything they could to smear others to bring themselves up. Nothing was out of bounds for these people, they made fun of appearances, smarts, skills, insecurities, someone was trying to acquire if someone was trying to make a change for the better they did their part to bring them down. These people have always hidden behind jokes that are in fact verbal abuse... I remember a time when a member of my family had a high religious achievement, and one of my cousins made a remark that was not only false but degrading. They did it to hide their own shortcomings, their jealousy, their envyings. Later their jealousy would become hatred towards those family members who don't sink to their level and know the truth about them. The biggest things these people try to go after character and reputation so that others don't believe that any type of harassment or bullying is going on. They will do what they can to blameshift and portray their spitefulness onto the other person to make that other person look like the "crazy" one. For example, my cousin doesn't believe that my family should be able to grieve over my other cousin's death. This cousin used this exact strategy, putting down/making fun/bullying all the while screaming that they are the victim. Then this cousin proceeded to make fun and project their traits onto those whom they wanted to be seen as "crazy." A clear case of a true narcissist, trying to project their failings and pathology onto those whom they target. It has been said that narcissistic people may have experienced a traumatic event in their childhood, this could be the case with my uncle who watched his dad beat a dog to death in front of him...However, research states that not all who suffer from a traumatic experience become narcissists. It is a conscious choice little by little instead of turning away from anger, envy etc, they embrace it until it becomes who they are. They lose the ability to empathize with others, they gain an insatiable desire for the need to be validated and to exterminate anyone they see as a threat to their carefully sugared house of cards. Research shows that not all narcissistically toxic people are successful, they do not always live up expectations they had set or to what they believe they should have achieved in this life. Even though these people are not leaders, they still put on an imposing pompous appearance to hide what they perceive as feelings of failure. Normal people experience failures in their life but because they are not built upon false personas, the normal person is able to live happily in spite of these challenges that come their way. For the normal person, making connections with others is important; for the narcissist, they feel and express revulsion and strong disapproval of any sign of affinity, rapport, or kindness. They perceive kindness, being nice, or showing any sign of love as a weakness. A toxic bully will choose to prey upon those who they believe portray these so-called "weakness." They would try to suck out the light and drag souls into their darkness. These family members do not realize that regardless of our perceived vulnerability, we will always show true strength for we experience empathy, we know charity, we have the ability to acquire and apply emotional knowledge, and because we are living according to our true self, we pose a threat to their flimsy egomania conceited selves. Narcissistic toxic family members try to convince those they put down that is something the normal person did as if it is the normal person's fault for being normal. Those who have wondered if "where there is smoke there is fire." The problem with that thought is where did the fire start, and who is adding gasoline to it? These people are not the victim even though they scream they are. My family has never gone out of our way to harm, threaten, slander any member of the family for the thrill or to continue to create contention. As normal people, we have tried to reconcile, we have apologized and asked for forgiveness to start paths of healing. Any attempt we have made has been brutally turned down, they willfully and knowingly make conscious choices and effort to keep this fantasy alive. "We will remain angry at you and your wicked family as long as..." Their claims are as outrageous as their attempts to "destroy" my family. They withhold forgiveness and cling to disillusioned, exaggerated wrongs, they smirk and fist bump when they have what they consider a "victory," which in fact is, only if they live to what they claim to believe, totally against what our church leaders preach and is only hurting themselves each time they lash out at those whom they target. While reading a book called "Becoming the Narcissist worst nightmare," by Shahida Arabi, I came to the realization that the situation my family is in is, in fact, Atypical of what narcissist do to nonnarcissistic people whom they target. My family has pleaded for compassion, for them to act kinder, to at least behave civilly. They choose to not take the feedback and apply it, instead my uncle continues to use passive-aggressive maliciousness. Trying to insert himself into any facet of my family's life as if he has some sick need to say "remember I am still here, don't forget about me." I wonder if my aunt and uncle have ever considered going on a mission for the religion we both believe in. Instead of expending time and energy on putting others down, they could be using that same energy to lift others and changing positively. I highly doubt they will, for I don't believe they will ever be able to own up to their actions, they would have to acknowledge that they have to let go of hatred, jealousy, envyings and many other toxic feelings they cling to. I believe they like to live in their darkness, they do not find joy in normal things, but rather in the things found in sewers and gutters. It is really a pathetic way to live, trying to always put others down to esteem themselves. How exhausting that must be. Any person who spends time making crude harsh jokes about squatting, smacking, hitting or anything in regards to putting another person down or trying to "destroy" another person, must have a toxic sickness. To spend that time putting another down shows true self, toxic and sick. No real man would ever put any woman down the way my uncle does. And since we cannot ask her and they are so adamant that their daughter was not excluded or shunned in any way, was she lying? Did she lie about her sister not speaking to her for months, did she lie about the things she said to us...maybe she did but maybe she didn't. We took her at her word. So he can continue in his feeble attempts to stop the truth from emerging, from trying to silence us from what we personally saw and heard, but the truth always comes out. This woman and her family are more powerful than anything they could ever imagine. Their daughter said it best "Love always wins" and love is what my family has.

A Good day to stay Dry

As the storm rages on my umbrella keeps me dry. Bullies are lower than any living creature on Earth. A bully generally is in league with beelzebub himself, which in my opinion is the case here. If a bully has nothing better to do than read my blog and make snide comments, then they are truly bullies indeed and need to go get counseling for their misguided life. I am reminded of the quote ”I imagine one of the reasons people cling to their hatred so stubbornly is because they sense, once hate is gone, they will be forced to deal with pain.”- James Baldwin. Maybe one day they will turn away from their hatred and deal with the pain... one can only hope... but who knows maybe they will continue to hold onto their hatred and continue to be in league with beelzebub because that is all they have left. It is pretty pathetic when a bully uses other peoples religion in order to try and bully someone.

A good day for Sunshine

"Yea, though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil: for thou art with me; thy rod and thy staff they comfort me." I am stronger than I look and no amount of harassment will break me for I have learned to Dance in the Storm. Nothing will be done because nothing was done and again the bullies look like the fools that they are. If only they would follow their own advice. It is always interesting when a bully will say that a person standing up for themselves is somehow pointing a finger or counting a sin, don't be a bully in the first place. Just as bullies in the scriptures tried to squelch out the truth and goodness... well, we have all read how it turns out for those people. Funny how a bully will try to bully someone into silence and will try to only let one side of a story be told, a story by them that has narcissistic undertones, is biased and has a hateful agenda. I repeat what I have said before. It comes down to this: God knows the Truth of the Matter. God knows your heart and your intent; God knows what choices you made and continue to make; God knows the words you have written and the words you have said; God knows what you did and continue to do. And that is all there is to it. To add, God knows my heart, he knows my intent, he knows what actions I have done, he knows the choices I have made and continue to make and he knows the truth of the matter. I find peace and comfort that God knows. I will continue to have sunshine in my soul and in my life. For sunshine is light alone, it can’t become a cloud, the cloud which exists independently only blocks the light. Sunshine is in no way causing or at fault for the cloud. Though maybe the bully is upset with the happiness of others.

A Good Day for Subtle Hints

JUST GOES TO SHOW YOU SHOULD NEVER ASSUME AND IT ISN"T ALWAYS ABOUT WHAT YOU BELIEVE IT IS! THIS POST IS REFERENCING MY EXPERIENCE IN DILLARDS! ONCE AGAIN WHALE (LYING) TALES NEED TO BE BROUGHT BACK DOWN TO SIZE! MORE PROOF THAT IT IS YOU ALL WHO ARE THE STALKERS NOT US! 

Sometimes someone will come along and try to bully you. Bully you into silence, bully you into fear of walking into a store because they might be there, bully you into not writing because they will make fun of you for it, bully you into any number of things. But the truth is a bully is nothing more than a lowlife insecure being who should be pitied. They make fun of others under the guise of "jokes" it just shows what lowlifes they are. It really is execrable, but they have been at it for so many years never taking the subtle and not so subtle hints of being outside the bounds of good society, religiously and otherwise. When they got looks of disapproval, outrage, and even being slapped, they just laughed because it brought out some kind of sick perverseness to the surface. They have been bullies for years but they never really had the funds to stand on two feet. Now that they have a small fortune, instead of doing good in the world, they continue in their perverseness trying to get revenge on the world, but since they cannot get revenge on those who they deemed actually hurt them, they content themselves on trying to destroy the lives of those who helped them through the years. My family has never had time for bullies because we have always been too busy living our own lives and trying to make the world a better place. Unfortunately, bullies have families too and can end up in one's family. Sometimes a bully ends up being so outlandish and loud because they have so much to hide and they turn on the very people who supported them, helped them, and wanted them to succeed in life. This is what has happened in my family. Everyone and I mean everyone in this life has done something they have regretted, made a mistake, or wished there was something they could have done differently. But a bully, a bully will hide their mistakes from others and paint another picture for "new friends", they push people away who know the truth, who was there to contradict this persona they are trying to exemplify to others. Now a person who isn't a bully, they don't hold these things for "ransom," but a bully does. That is what happened in my family with my aunt and uncle. The tell-all of a bully is the withholding of forgiveness. This is what my aunt and uncle have done. They are withholding forgiveness, which in a sense is really sad because forgiveness is as much for the person giving as it is for the person receiving. But a bully will use their authority to try and manipulate a person and make the truth skewed to their way. My uncle has actually admitted he is toxic "The way toxic people act is because of an internal struggle they bear inside of themselves but is taken out on those around them, or their target... in their minds, they will always find a way to justify the means." They claim that they are the lion (the one who is creating the toxicity and not the "victim" and yet everything they say contradicts this as they claim we are the "lions' creating all the toxicity...interesting how cracks form all around them in their delusional narcissistic "stories." Today I laugh because no matter how one tries to skew the truth, the truth is that there are two sides to every story. One side has been told by my aunt and uncle. This blog is the other side, my side of the story. My uncle and cousin can fist bump all they want and claim that a good day is when the bully gets away with crap. But I warn them of this. God and Angels are watching this unfold and Angels are silent notes taking. Stay up in the night and plot his revenge all he wants (oh...what an online warrior he is), but just as has been done in the past by saints and prophets, so to will my family to follow in their footsteps and live our lives. My uncle and aunt can no more put harm towards my Grandma, they may have ended up with Great Uncle Jim's money, but at what cost, they lost the most precious thing anyone in the world can have. They lost family by their choices. My family is stronger than both Jetta and Darren and we don't have the pressures that Wes and Jan were under when they were taken to court for erroneous charges. A reign of terror only lasts so long, and so does playing the victim, one day they will have played their cards one too many times and will have to face the consequences of their actions. Whether it is in this life or the next it does not matter, because it will come and that is no laughing matter. Truth always comes out.

A good day for telling it how it is.

Instead of reconciling or moving on with life, bullies "fist bump" and continue living a lie. They are not interested in reconciliation, they are not even interested in civility. No, they are only interested in destroying and creating chaos. It is my firm belief that there is a God in Heaven and His Angels silently record in the Book of Life our intent of heart, our actions, and our thoughts. Forgiveness does not mean that a bully has won, forgiveness was never for them but for me. A bully may continue to live a lie, but in the end, I truly believe the truth will come out. A bully who does not change their ways will always mock and have a weak mind. While those who are willing to forgive tend to be secure in their own life and will continue to encourage and lift up others even when they have been wronged. Those fist-bumping bullies just need to get over themselves and move on with their lives. A Toxic Person is a jealous-judgmental person. Jealous people are incredibly toxic because they have so much internal self-hate that they can't be happy for anyone around them. (I don't believe my aunt, uncle or anyone alive in their family could be happy for my family and any successes we enjoy) Typically, their jealousy comes out as judgment, criticism or gossip. According to them, everyone else is awful, uncool or lacking in some way. So because they are this way, they will not be able to let things alone and will continue to nitpick at imagined offenses and exaggerated wrongs. They will hide for periods of time, and then come out to try and strike any person who is trying to heal from their toxicity. These toxic people have a way of slinging jabs and subtle comments at opportune times, trying to make their actions refutable to others who cannot corroborate account of events. They are very clever to hide their behavior in plain sight and have tried (and failed which has them the most pissed off, that we didn't buy into their manipulation) manipulate emotions because they thought they knew us intimately(which they do not, for how can people who have toxic mental illness running rampant in their family understand normal people? They can't). These bullies are hidden in the midst of good people and act as if they are the better sort. Narcissists tend to struggle with personal problems, such as troubled relationships. Interesting how my aunt and uncle in many cases have had "bad" neighbors, problems with people in their congregation at church, seems to always be the other people's fault for the confrontations. In the case of us, they now act as if they are the ones distancing themselves by saying things like stay away and yet they continue to stalk us, (they have an inflated sense of self-importance) they continue to try and smear us, instead of truly ignoring us, they create dramatic scenes. Ever since they began to hide what they were doing with Uncle Jim, they become unavailable or open and become untrustworthy. I ask, if they are asked about certain people, what is their response? Do they intend to destroy that person? Do they call them crazy and mock that person? Do they talk about forgiveness or reconciliation? Do they put those whom they are asked about down, or do they talk about wishing them well in their respective life? Are they quick to judge those people and proclaim to know for a fact about their temple status? Do they lay out sins for the world to see and get angry when those people send back stones into their glass house? See it is all about where their intent lay. Those who bully throw stones at glass houses and get angry when a stone is thrown back into their house. Unfortunately, that is how a war is started. And that is what has happened in this case. A war was started because bullies threw stones and got pissed when people said look at yourself. They belittle other people to make themselves feel better. It is funny how bullies will try to hide the truth and construe it so it fits their needs. "The scriptures testify that the proud are easily offended and hold grudges. They withhold forgiveness to keep another in their debt and to justify their injured feelings. The proud do not receive counsel or correction easily. Defensiveness is used by them to justify and rationalize their frailties and failures." As of today, these people are unable to remove themselves from our family because reconciliation has never been on the table for them, they do not want to accept responsibility for their actions. They want us to be silenced so that the truth will not come out about their narcissistic toxic behaviors. They want the story to be one-sided. The thing is, the truth will come out in the end. they will see that relationships had been forged without their knowledge because of the fear of retribution on their side of things. That certain situations were grossly exaggerated by the very bullies who stole and hid money. This whole thing comes down to bullies being jealous, bullies taking what was not theirs in the first place, and bullies who want to destroy anyone who asks questions about what had happened. But the simple truth is God does know, and he will continue to know and in the end, the lies will stop, and the bullying will end. To the bullies I say, "where is your heart?" "what is it they hope to accomplish and will it end with having a clear conscience before the judgment bar of God?"

A good day to move forward

In times like these, a family should come together; yet, sometimes if one family member has jealousy, anger, a held grudge or any other negative feeling; a family is torn apart. That is what has happened to my family. This time, they went one step too far and now are going to suffer the consequences of their own actions. They have twisted every reconciliation attempt, made idle threats (beware when one casts a stone one also lives in a glass house.) made false accounts to police officers, and have lied to the courts and continue to do so. It really comes as no surprise as these people are unable to act normal, and be normal. They reek of jealousy of any fun thing my family does (they have to put it down in any way they can). They watch our family under a microscope, if they really wanted to move on with their lives, they would simply turn the other way. But they don't really, it is written all over their snide remarks they make, the comments they make to others, the way they in any way they can put my family down. All because my family has always been the Fun, Happy, Loving ones and still are. For us, it is easy to overlook all the verminous, egregious, dramatic lies. Forgiveness is easy to give when we are the fun ones and are spiritual giants. One day they will have to look us in the eye and explain their actions and apologize if they want to get into heaven...maybe they don't believe in Heaven or Hell anymore. Maybe the lines of good and evil have for them become so blurred that they can't tell the difference, but one day they will have to again distinguish those lines. Until then, my family will continue to enjoy our lives, live our religion, and make the most out of each moment. Leaving their jealously behind us and moving forward, but do not mistake our moving forward with accepting any of their lies and laying down to be beaten up and punched (metaphorically) over and over again. Now knowing them and that they have been reading my blog, they probably take it as a threat or a "promise." They are not intelligent enough or normal enough to understand that their bullying will come to an end. It is true that they can't stand the sight of my family because we remind them of their guilt.